Spirit
28 February 2006

























The Roman


I have always had a fascination with spirit. What I mean by spirit is not necessarily the spirit world as in speaking to those who have passed over with the aid of a medium and table knocking but more the existence and sense of spirit. I know I am spirit, that ‘I’ am not a body but rather a spirit with a body. The possibility of death, an end to my existence; that I am no longer does not compute.

Heaven in the concept of fluffy clouds, angels with harps and pearly gates does not appeal either, there is too much white in the image. I want there to be colour, noise, scent and life. I want life; I want it to be continuous and ever changing. I cannot see dead people. I can feel places, objects and something else that I cannot explain though.

I love museums, wandering around, looking at the exhibits and feeling the past. Over the years I have spent many hours roaming museums in different towns and cities across the world. These days I do not often get the chance to roam alone and generally my husband, our daughter and the grandchildren come along too. Luckily, my husband understands my love of museums even if he does not necessarily share it and our youngest daughter and the grandchildren are all at an age where museums are exciting and interesting places and they have yet to adopt the perception that they are stuffy and boring.

Our local Museum is always a special place; we paid a lengthy visit there in the past few days. My husband gallantly entertained the children in the Natural History and Prehistoric Galleries where they made acquaintances with Polar Bears, Dinosaurs and poisonous tree frogs. I happily wandered the Archaeology and Egyptology Galleries at my leisure. Here, time is held prisoner mainly within glass and wood coffins and yet it passes so quickly for those who look on.

Some of the exhibits call to me, I can hear them before I enter the Galleries. Once I enter and look upon them they take me as a visual prisoner, drawing me in with their colours, patterns and details. A beautifully embroidered beadwork waistcoat once said to have belonged to a Native American Chieftain is held captive in the Living Cultures Gallery. The waistcoat casts a spell on me as real as anything deemed physical in our world. Over three hundred years old its colours are deep and rich, the flowers so appealing that you want to reach out and caress their velvet petals.

I appreciate the beauty of the Japanese swords and armour as I pass by and yet I cannot feel or hear them. My senses however buzz wildly as I wander closer to the Egyptology Gallery. I order them into place before I enter and try to wander as quietly and sober as the other visitors. What does anyone looking on see? Do they feel the exhibits too?

The artefacts from the Tomb of the Two Brothers are amazing, but I cannot feel or hear the jewellery, sarcophagi or mummies clearly. Other Egyptian artefacts call out with louder voices. Strangely, the strongest are much younger mummies in the far corner of the room; Romans who died in Egypt and who were mummified there. These are not grand mummies accompanied by gold and other worldly goods; they have something much more precious, a painted cloth portrait of the person within. One, a young man, perhaps in his late teens looks at me as real as the young student to my left. Another, a woman my age or possibly younger talks to me and a look captured in her eyes by an artist over two thousand years ago tells me that life then was much the same as it is today.

A couple of the mummies remain silent and the final two scream at me like rock stars from an ancient world. Two men, one with olive coloured eyes was a lover of many women and he tells me that he loved himself more. The other is as alive today as he was then. His rich wavy brown hair falls with a swagger and his brown eyes sparkle with mischief and delight, his voice is deep and loud. He tells me clearly what I already know and understand; that our spirit lives on long after our body is dead and that heaven has colour, noise, scent and life.

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Posted by Miladysa at 11:50 AM 10 Comments

Confessions of a Perfect Mother
16 February 2006






















I joined the Tufty Club within the first month of starting school, I remember receiving my little pack and Members Badge. As far as badges went, a Tufty badge was not in the same elite league as a Blue Peter Gold BUT the big advantage of a Tufty badge was that it could be acquired for a small affordable sum of money. Blue Peter badges have to be earned by lots of hard work.

I would wear my badge with pride and practice my road safety with the utmost diligence. Something always worried me though, a little something that preyed on my mind, even today, here on my blog I am finding it difficult to confess that I did not really like Tufty. There, I have said it, I confess, Tufty was a Goody Two Shoes and Willie Weasel was by far the more attractive character. If anything went wrong, you could be sure that Willie was at the bottom of it and Tufty was always as white as snow.

The same thing happened with Sooty and Sweep. Sooty never did anything wrong (apart from squirting water in a goodhearted way) and Sweep was never out of trouble. I mean, poor Sweep, he did not ever intend to be naughty it just all got out of hand. Sooty and Sue were always on hand to report him to the sanctimonious Mr Corbett. I loved Sweep and the bulldog Butch. Sooty, Sue and Mr Corbett could have all gone and “got knotted” as far as I was concerned, Sweep and Butch were the ones who would have received the invitation to tea at our house.

The amazing thing is, I am, to all intents and purposes, what could be best described as a Goody Two Shoes. I abide by the rules, I always do the right thing, and I never get into trouble, well for the majority of time. Every now and then I falter, something happens, a little bleep along the smooth path that is me and BLEEP! If you bleep all the way along life people recognise it as your tune, if you bleep every ten years or so it is always remembered as a bum note that is never to be lived down.

“Do you remember when mum and auntie H drank all that champagne and mum got ratted?”

“Yeah….”

“We had to have tea at auntie H’s and dad arrived home to an empty house and no note to say where we were.”

“Yeah…”

“He put mum into the car and then she opened the door and FELL OUT onto the pavement!”

OMG! YEAH!”

“And that time she was 40 and we had that barbecue!”

“Yeah…”

“I can’t believe she embarrassed us by singing that Meatloaf song on the karaoke!”

“Gross!”

“Then she collapsed and got carried to bed!”

“Yeah…”


I mean for heavens sake if that’s all they have got on me I think I can issue my own badge! :)

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Posted by Miladysa at 10:01 AM 37 Comments

Memories (Part II)
10 February 2006




















With you...

Loitering at the top of the stairs on the way back from the bathroom… voices and strange noises in your bedroom… listening at the bedroom door… presents for another… friends around the bedside… joy turning to disappointment… wishing for another child to play… bored with a baby… having to share you both… refusing to share you… warm days and short colourful dresses… pine perfume… empty hockey pitches… helicopter whirls…

All things bright and beautiful… cabbages and kings…

New places… new home… new furniture… new friends… wanting old…

White dusty walls and homes of silken thread… rough wooden floors… tiny glass panes… sensing the old within the new… cider barrels, many voices… wooden settles with blinking dogs nesting underneath in kennels rented by the pint… no more bedtime stories… home now, absent here…

Empty basket, heartbreak… frisky white and liver coloured friend… wide blue river, green banks… eels steaming by fishing rods… reeds swimming in deep pools… walking, wandering… alone with others…

Sitting on your shoulders while you stand on the ancient stone bridge… black sky lit by rainbow lights dancing to gunpowder bangs… cold smokey air… looking out across the river towards our old home… knowing you want to go back too, knowing the old life is over… not understanding why…

Looking at your bare thigh, watching you squeeze the flesh together… hypnotised by the needle feeding you life… understanding it commands us now… uniform gone, no more buckles… metal and liquid Rupert giving life saving orders… learning to deny anything has changed… understanding that part of you died and that your loss is greater than ours… recognising to respond without acknowledgement… loving you more, feeling loved less

“Young girl”, different music, different party…

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Posted by Miladysa at 7:27 PM 18 Comments

Memories - (Part I)
9 February 2006





















Sitting on the hard stone doorstep… legs stretched out before me… flakes of diamonds glimmering in the flag path… leaves whispering in the gentle breeze washing over a large oak tree in the distance… waves of sun rippling down upon and across the crown of my head… tendrils of hair brushing softly against my shoulders… tiny red ants scurrying to and fro… moving my sandals from their path… birds singing merrily… the scent of small white flowers from the borders of the garden…quick shadows… looking up to find you watching me… shrieks of delight… running, my heart pounding against the light cotton of my dress… flying, your strong hands under my arms… bright smiles and blue twinkling eyes…

Sitting on a carpet behind a sofa… no need to hide from the daleks… eating hard thick oatcake biscuits out of thick foil packets… drinking water from a bottle and metal tin with handles… sneaking away to play with the buckle of your belt hoping you do not discover that it is gone too soon… listening to your laughing voices … sounds from a radio; the Archers, Woman’s Hour, Listen With Mother, Fisher, German Bight, Viking, Dogger… all blending into one…

Dancing downstairs to the scents of curry… treasure plates of cold rice pearls… wooden beer barrels on kitchen tables… empty silent glass bottles in wooden crates… familiar voices, the Beatles, Elvis, Cliff and Eddie sleeping away the heavy mornings anticipating night… friends together… departed friends… tears…

Thora Hird, Jimmy Clitheroe and Emergency Ward 10… Bedtime stories with cotton and wool maps… tales of lands far away… bunnies running over sky blue headboards…

Waking up with Mum alone together… crying… weekly Cathedral visits… skipping footsteps on ancient flag floors… veils of incense… choirs of candles… jewelled caresses of light from biblical scenes… stone knights sleeping… brass walls… dusty books on ancient chains… Ladybird books and pennies in an honesty basket… arranging books in my own little library… knowing you are missing us too… feeling you home… wishing a day into a second…

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